My guest blogger today, Shelby Elkins, is talking about dating and how we don’t take it as seriously as we should these days. Here’s what she has to say:
My generation does not take dating seriously. Rather than asking someone out in person, we direct message someone on social media such as Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter with a cheap pickup line that can end up being degrading. Also, people never call each other anymore. Texting has become a huge part of our relationships and girls think it is romantic to get cute text messages from guys. As technology advances, romance gets lost.
And what ever happened to dressing up for dates? Girls and guys used to get dressed up and look their best to go out with their partner. Now going on a date has vanished and turned into people texting each other to come over when they are bored.
We should never settle for just Netflix dates or text message romances. We deserve more. It seems like young people today are not willing to invest in relationships like people did years ago, not just with money, but with time. I think love is worth fighting for and it starts with pushing against what has become our norm.
Josh McCaleb said:
I couldn’t agree more. As time goes on the meaning of a relationship is going to vanish. Social media and text messaging have already started to chip away at the true purpose and meaning of the relationship between two people.
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Alora Hickman said:
I definitely agree that dating methods have gotten lazy in the past few years. Getting all dressed up for a date and being taken somewhere nice shows manners and commitment from both sides of the relationship. That said, I think that a relaxing night of Netflix and popcorn can be equally as romantic, as it is more personal and can show how close the couple has become.
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Ryan jameson said:
Very nice, I agree dating can’t just be I love you over text. It’s just not the same nor anywhere near what a relationship needs to be. I think dates can vary from formal to casual though, just because it’s a Netflix theater doesn’t degrade the experience between the two. But only text communication isn’t a great way to have a relationship
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Amber Wardlow said:
I agree that dating has gotten lazy also, everything is involved around social media. People would rather text or snap chat everyday than to actually get out and be with that person. Relationships are far more valuable than to just sit and hide behind screens, you have to show people that you care.
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Landon Walker said:
Shelby is correct on everything she has written about in her nicely written blog. Now a days couples don’t take a date serious unless it’s a special occasion.
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Emily Boyer said:
I agree with everything Shelby had to say, but I do have some disagreements. I agree that on the first few dates you should dress nice but after a while it’s ok to dress more casual on dates. Me and my boyfriend James have been dating for over three and a half years and we always dress casual when we go out on dates now. I do agree with the texting issue however, I feel any form of communication among couples is good. I do love getting a phone call from James, but sometimes a phone call isn’t always possible and texting is the only way that is possible at that moment. I’m sometimes too busy to call James or vis versa so I text him instead and we still can communicate with each other. So yes on the first few dates you should dress nice but after that it’s ok to dress casual unless your going on a formal date then of course dress nice. Of course a relationship shouldn’t be strictly texting but sometimes that’s all one can do at that certain moment.
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